Grief & Loss Information


Is Death Really the End or the Window to A New Beginning?


Earlier this month I learned a dear friend had been diagnosed with terminal cancer. She has been given less than six months to live as the cancer has fully permeated her liver and pancreas.

Since the diagnosis, her health has rapidly declined and the hope of realizing several more months of life is quickly waning.

The fear of death holds a mighty grip because what lies beyond our physical existence is basically unknown and fear of the unknown can be debilitating and torturous.

Our spiritual beliefs play a major role in how we view death and how we respond when we are faced with it. Those who believe that physical death is the absolute end of existence may live their remaining days or months in terror, anger, and regret, and assume the role of a victim, the recipient of a ruthless injustice.

There are others who believe that our physical time on earth is but a learning opportunity on the path towards higher awareness and evolution.

Everything in the universe is made up of energy, us included. There is an energy that brought us to earth in the form of a human being and this same energy will move us into our next form whatever that may be.

Do you know where you were before you came to earth? Before you materialized here in the form of a human? If you knew what to expect on earth prior to arriving would you have jumped at the chance? Imagine looking through the classifieds in your previous existence and you read an ad that says,

Opportunity to join fast-paced, tumultuous planet where you will be exposed to disease, war, pain, hunger, fear and hatred. You will arrive without skill or protection and must rely solely on a more developed member of your species for food, shelter, comfort and safety. You will not be able to feed or care for yourself during your first few years of life and will not have the cognitive ability to recognize danger or threat.

You may spend your developing years in a loving environment or in one filled with hatred, violence and pain.

We cannot guarantee your physical form. You may arrive without limbs, possibly be blind or deaf or suffer a form of impairment or mutilation that might create challenges or hardship for you. We cannot guarantee you love, respect or an enjoyable voyage. It will be the role of a dice.

You will be given a heart that can be broken and your spirit will be challenged regularly. You will arrive on earth completely exposed, unprepared and without a survival handbook. You will be expected to learn, grow, survive on your own and make the most with what you have.

You are offered no guarantees and you cannot come back when you wish. You are committed for an undetermined period of time and may not return until you are called.

If this sounds like something you're interested in, please sign on the dotted line below and within seconds, you will be transported to earth in the form of a human being.

Good luck.

???????????????????????

If you knew what to expect prior to joining earth, would you have signed up? The ad above contains no exaggeration or false statements. It is reality as we know it.

As human beings we also experience love, comfort, security, happiness, accomplishment, learning, discovery, fun, pleasure, elation, pride, success, growth and reward.

I would like to offer an alternative perspective if I may, a suggestion, something to contemplate.

What if we are in the earth school to experience, learn, grow and develop? What if it is a playground and a learning institution? Life is nothing more than a series of experiences. That is what we do while we're here. We do nothing else but create experiences.

Sometimes we may be called back earlier than we'd like to be and although earth can be scary and unpredictable, we would rather be here where we have accepted our position than to head into the unknown.

What if you had a glimpse of where you were going? Would it make your transition easier?

What if physical death means you are returning to your original, energy state? Your real home? What if you knew you had earned a special pair of wings and were being advanced to the next level in your evolution?

In your original state, you experience no physical or emotional pain. You understand that everything is okay and that human life is a wonderful experience. You may regret that you will no longer be there for your children or loved ones, but what makes you think you won't?

In your original form, you may be even closer to those you love and capable of guiding them with more success than you ever could in human form.

You may provide the inspiration a songwriter receives when she writes a beautiful song that will ease the pain of many and give hope and inspiration to your child in a time of despair.

You may be that intuitive voice that tells a loved one to turn left instead of right, thus avoiding a tragic accident.

You may be the gentle wind that blows through the hair of your grandchild as he rides his bicycle across a field.

You may orchestrate that serendipitous meeting between your child and his soul mate and future life partner.

Contemplate death as a transformation; the transition from one form of being to another. There is no end because life is infinite. Energy is transferred, not "snuffed out."

When a tree dies, it returns to the earth in an altered state and rises again in new form. It nourishes the earth that gave it life and contributes to the new life of plants, flowers and trees in the form of food and nourishment. That tree that once stood 100 feet tall now lives in the leaves of the beautiful flowers and greenery that share its home.

Many ask, "Why does anyone have to suffer?" Why do cancer, disease and natural tragedies have to be so merciless, so cruel?

Once we have transitioned to our new form, our human experience will be the equivalent in time to the blip on a radar screen, the blink of an eye.

While on earth, the suffering may seem endless because we are bound by time and space, but outside of the physical world, time does not exist.

Maybe these seeming injustices are played out to bring us back to what is truly important and what we are here to learn. Sometimes we get caught up in who has the bigger home, the fastest car, the prettiest wife, the more prestigious title, and when we are faced with the impending loss of a loved one or watching those we love suffer, we are forced to realize that nothing of material significance really matters.

What if life does not end, but merely changes form? What if we do not cease to exist, but transform? We leave our physical limitations and pain behind and operate from a higher awareness, an enlightened plane, an existence without borders?

Cancer, disease, disaster and tragedy may not be a means of punishment, but a bold reminder that we must live life to the fullest, to appreciate all that we have and to show love, compassion and acceptance for our fellow human beings.

Perhaps we should celebrate when a loved one receives her wings because she has been called home. Maybe we should not fear receiving a call when our time comes because we will have learned our valuable lessons and will be promoted to the next level of growth.

Laurie Hayes works with small and home-based business owners who feel stuck. To receive valuable tips, strategies and techniques designed to grow a successful business without sacrificing quality of life, subscribe to her free bi-weekly newsletter at http://www.wheretheheartis-lifecoaching.com


MORE RESOURCES:
'Ways out of the darkness': books for helping with loss  The Guardian

There are different kinds of loss – of self, of someone else, of a dream. Sometimes a book can speak across these boundaries, reaching out from the ...


Grief, prayers, cellphone photos: Victims, survivors of N.Z. mosque attack  Montreal Gazette

At least 50 are dead and dozens are injured after Friday's attack on New Zealand mosques. Here are some of their stories.


Fort Hood: TAPS program helping grieving families cope with loss  KWTX

Military families from across the world came to Fort Hood this weekend, sharing stories and learning how to heal after the death of their loved one.


She lost her dad when she was 14. Now, she's helping kids learn how to mourn.  CNN

Mary Robinson founded the Imagine center for kids to provide what she didn't have after her father died.


'The concept of five stages of grief is a total fallacy'  Siliconrepublic.com

Afterbook is an alternative platform to Facebook where people can express grief after the loss of a loved one. Emily McDaid reports.


Grieving Children's Program facilitator training set  Kennebec Journal & Morning Sentinel

Hospice Volunteers of Waterville Are will offer a 20-hour facilitator training for their grieving children's program, Hope's Place, starting Saturday, April 6.


Dealing with loss of a loved one: Nikki Bush on grief, moving on  EWN

Creative parenting expert Nikki Bush says her life was disrupted and her family dynamic changed after her husband's murder. She opens up on rebuilding after ...


Coping With Grief: 7 Things to Remember When Dealing with Loss  On Cancer - Memorial Sloan Kettering

When grief feels unbearable, use these tips to help stay grounded.


Understanding care giving, loss and grief: Andrés Cerpa tackles through poetry  NBCNews.com

In his debut, "Bicycle in a Ransacked City: An Elegy," poet and editor Andrés Cerpa details the journey of his late father's struggle with Parkinson's as he ...


LOTUS group offers support for those grieving a loss  Bismarck Tribune

It was about a month after the death of his wife, Donnie, when Don Lucas of Bismarck started on a journey of sorts.


Guest Column: Tackling the difficult subject of grief  The Delaware County Daily Times

By Tricia Stouch. Times Guest Columnist. Are you thinking do I want to read this article? No one talks about grief! We don't share our feelings about grief.


MercyOne to Offer Grief and Loss Support Group  KIOW

MercyOne North Iowa Hospice's Bereavement Department is offering a grief and support group known as Understanding Grief and Loss. This group provides ...


World unites in grief as Ethiopian Airlines crash kills 157  Al Jazeera English

Outpouring of sadness as politicians, diplomats and social media users pay respect to victims from 35 nationalities.


Examining fathers' grief after miscarriage  William & Mary News

Examining grief: William & Mary School of Education doctoral counseling students conducted a study on the often overlooked grief experienced by fathers after a ...


Dear Allison: 'My son and his girlfriend are pregnant and they are going to have an abortion. I'm devastated'  Independent.ie

Q My son has been dating a girl from college for about three months. I found out accidentally that she is six weeks pregnant and they are going to have an ...


'Paddleton' portrays realistic platonic romance in the face of loss  Duke Chronicle

Movies about friendship are a commonplace in the film world. Yet, many times, these films ignore the platonic relationships between men, instead replacing ...


Review: How Amazon's Kate Beckinsale Series, “The Widow,” and Netflix's New Ricky Gervais Show, “After Life,” Get Grief All Wrong  The New Yorker

Troy Patterson reviews the new Netflix series “After Life,” starring Ricky Gervais, and the new Amazon series “The Widow,” starring Kate Beckinsale, which are ...


Grief-stricken New Windsor mom: Dont drink and drive  Times Herald-Record

NEW WINDSOR — The evening a drunk driver struck and killed her son on Route 300, Sonia Borrero heard the sirens from her home. “Those sirens were for my ...


Grieving the loss of a loved one - Afternoons  ABC Local

Losing the love of your life can be devastating; the person with whom you've shared so much is no longer there, no longer a part of your life but, even in the ...


Svigals+Partners on designing for 21st-century loss and gun violence  The Architect's Newspaper

The Architect's Newspaper is the most authoritative voice on architecture and design in the United States.


Grief group looks to support young adults through loss  WXXI News

As the number of lives lost to opioids continues to grow in the Rochester area, a new support group has formed to reach out to young adults who have lost.


‘In deep grief’: Aid workers, U.N. staff, tourists among victims in Ethiopia plane crash  The Washington Post

ADDIS ABABA, Ethiopia — Among the dead in Sunday's Ethiopian Airlines crash were law students, tourists, writers, academics and a number of aid workers ...


Visions of hope: Wellington rallies together  The Spinoff

Wellingtonians gathered at the Basin Reserve last night to mourn the loss of 50 lives, grieve together, and stand against terrorism, Islamophobia and white ...


Grief and gaming: How I mourned my online friend  BBC News

"It was absolutely devastating when I got the news," Jasen Kasten says about the day he was told his friend Dave had died. But they'd never met. They'd become ...


Climate chaos and collective grief  Church Times

In the winning entry of the Theology Slam competition, Hannah Malcolm says that the Church must seek opportunities both to express mourning and to speak of ...


Kerre McIvor: Overwhelming grief will change us  Newstalk ZB

COMMENT: What on earth can I say? What can anyone say in the wake of the horror shootings that have shattered New Zealanders' sense of security forever?


Ricky Gervais mixes comedy and grief in bittersweet 'After Life'  CNN

(CNN) Comedy and crippling grief might seem like strange bedfellows, but Ricky Gervais mostly makes the odd juxtaposition work in "After Life," a melancholy ...


Over the Rhine's 'Love and Revelation': Listen to New Album  Rolling Stone

When Americana duo Over the Rhine recorded their first batch of songs in March 1989, members Linford Detweiler and Karin Bergquist were just two aspiring ...


A Second Chance at Sisterhood  The New York Times

I had never been close to my youngest sister. But after our other sister's death, grief became the bridge we met on.


Grief and anger as families try to identify loved ones killed in Ethiopia Airlines crash  CBC.ca

Five groups of Canadians connected to victims of the Ethiopian Airlines crash have now arrived in Addis Ababa, a senior Canadian government official told CBC ...


Get Involved Spotlight: Austin Center For Grief And Loss  KUT

The Austin Center for Grief & Loss (Austin Grief), formerly known as My Healing Place, is a bereavement center founded in Austin, TX in 2007. Founder.


Christchurch mosque attacks: Mayor Lianne Dalziel says city turning to practical help  Radio New Zealand

Christchurch Mayor Lianne Dalziel is encouraging people to lay flowers at the city's Botanic Gardens to show solidarity with people directly affected by the terror ...


Mary Oliver on Grief and Loss  The New York Times

Oliver, the hugely popular poet, died Thursday. Readers turned to her work to find comfort. Here's a selection of some of her best-known writing on loss and ...


Auckland stands with Christchurch and the Muslim community  OurAuckland

Mayor Phil Goff says, “Our thoughts go out to the victims, their families and their communities. We share their grief and sorrow and pass on our sympathy and ...


Why anxiety should be added to the 5 stages of grief  Washington Post

A few years ago, I began seeing a surge in anxious clients to my private practice as a grief therapist. They were reporting panic attacks and debilitating anxiety ...


Grief doesn't have five stages  The Outline

If you haven't experienced the death of someone close — someone so important to your life that the loss left you hollowed — then you haven't yet found out what ...


Grief is far more complex than the “five stages” theory suggests  Quartz

Grief can seem desolate for those in the thick of it who often feel unable to imagine a way out of their suffering. But, as time passes, the pain usually dampens or ...


Why We Need to Take Pet Loss Seriously  Scientific American

Scientific American is the essential guide to the most awe-inspiring advances in science and technology, explaining how they change our understanding of the ...


Highland Views: 'Good grief' and living honestly with loss  Asheville Citizen-Times

Sitting in a relative's memorial *service*, I was musing about grief and grieving. Mulling over this deep human emotion, I thought of all the years I've lived through ...


The Death of a Parent, Mother or Father, Affects Human Minds and Bodies  Fatherly

Even under the best circumstances, losing a parent changes an adult both psychologically and biologically. Those changes can become pathological.


The five stages of grief don't come in fixed steps – everyone feels differently  The Conversation - Australia

The process of grieving can happen in stages. But these stages are rarely experienced in the same way by one bereaved person and another.


What Sorry for Your Loss Understands About Grief  The Atlantic

The gorgeous and poignant new drama from Facebook Watch stars Elizabeth Olsen as a young woman whose husband has died.


Pet Death: Emotional Difficulty for People  Healthline

For some people, the death of a pet can be more difficult than the loss of a relative. Here's why.


What to Say (and What Not to Say) to Someone Who’s Grieving  The New York Times

A little empathy goes a long way, especially when someone is recovering from the loss of a loved one. Unfortunately, even when some of us mean well, we ...


Good Mourning: An Interactive Arts Festival About Grief and Loss  TheStranger.com

This series invites artists from Seattle and beyond to show work across mediums that addresses grief. Pieces include a panel from the NAMES Project's AIDS ...


Will I Ever Get Over This Grief?  The New York Times

Nearly four years after the death of her sister, a reader says her pain has only become more pronounced.


With climate change comes loss and "ecological grief"  Bulletin of the Atomic Scientists

Editor's note: This story was originally published by Undark. It appears here as part of the Climate Desk collaboration. When I called Courtney Howard, one of ...


Grief will let go eventually. And then I’ll remember my dad as he was  The Guardian

My father's death made me realise how ill-equipped we are to deal with loss – and the grief that follows, says Guardian columnist Owen Jones.


Schools fall short when it comes to helping students in grief – here's how they can improve  The Conversation - US

When it comes to helping students who've lost a loved one, educators often don't know what to do or say. A pediatrician offers insights on how schools can ...


'Grief looks different person-to-person': The Dinner Party serves up conversation on loss  Generocity

A local organizer of the group that convenes young adults to discuss the impact of loved ones' deaths shares what he learned from a recent Dinner Party panel.


After The Loss Of A Loved One, Your Holiday Traditions Change But Hope Endures  NPR

Grief can be amplified this time of year, whether you celebrate Christmas or Hanukkah. Honoring the memory of late family members helps many NPR listeners ...


At a loss: How losing a loved one can help you take stock of what really matters  NBCNews.com

I'd lost my husband and then both of my parents, but you have to keep on living, even if everything seems to be against you.


In 'Sorry For Your Loss,' Creator Explores How To Survive Grief  Forbes

"If you're going to play in the deep end of the swimming pool, you really have to give as much support as possible because you don't know who is watching, ...


Nick Cave illuminates love and loss in a letter to a fan  Quartz

Nick Cave is anything but a bad seed. The gloomy musician, artist, writer, and actor who looks a bit like a vampire is, in fact, a romantic who takes relationships ...


'Sorry for Your Loss' Review: A Nuanced Portrait of Grief  Rolling Stone

Grief is a very tough sell as the subject of an ongoing TV show. Whatever catharsis the dramatization might offer in short bursts, the potential for the “Why am I ...


How to Talk to a Grieving Customer  HBR.org Daily

“I'm calling on behalf of my partner. He died, and I need to close his account.” When Matt drowned in a fast-moving river, it fell to me to cancel his credit cards, ...


Help Desk: How to console those in mourning  The Boston Globe

It's OK to sit in silence with someone who has suffered a loss. Asking grieving friends or neighbors if you can do something concrete, like mow their lawn or bring ...


The First Holiday Without a Loved One  The Atlantic

For the bereaved, getting through the holidays means figuring out how—and whether—to celebrate as in years past.


‘Like therapy, but better’: The holiday dinner party that makes space for grief  The Washington Post

Christmas was always her father's holiday. Courtney Arnold's dad loved the music. He loved the tree. The two of them would sit side-by-side on the floor, sorting ...


Understanding Grief  The New York Times

Grief is not a problem to be solved or resolved. Rather, it's a process to be lived through in whatever form and amount of time it may take.


After The Anger Fades: When Grieving Finally Begins  Forbes

Until you lose someone, it's hard to know what grief will feel like and, even then, your experience will be unique to the situation. In the movies, people hold hands ...


The horror of grief: how loss is the ultimate boogeyman in Hereditary  The Guardian

The buzzed about shocker, starring Toni Collette, is the latest horror film to recognize the devastating effect of losing a loved one.


The Christmas Blues: Tips For Coping With Grief And Loss During The Holidays  KUAR

The holidays can create an extra burden for people struggling after the death of a loved one, a divorce or other stressors throughout the year. Dr. Brittney Schrick ...


Sorry for Your Loss – Facebook's rough and granular journey through grief  The Guardian

The social media giant's first global entry into TV, starring Elizabeth Olsen, is an unsentimental anatomisation of how essentially unknowable our loved ones ...


How to Grieve for Online Friends You Had Never Met in Person  The New York Times

We often use technology to form meaningful relationships with virtual strangers. But what happens when the person on the other side of the screen dies?


Easley family turns grief over losing baby into comfort for sibling survivors  Greenville News

Upstate family helps children who've lost siblings with a Hug from Heaven blankets.


A name for grief that goes on and on  CNN

Grieving is natural and healthy, but are there cases when it can occur too long or in an unhealthy way? Experts weigh in on complicated grief.


Hope and mourning in the Anthropocene: Understanding ecological grief  The Conversation CA

Ecological grief - the mourning that takes place when we lose parts of the natural world - is likely to affect more of us in the future.


Tell Me One More Time What to Do About Grief  The New York Times

Someone is gone. Perhaps this is the first year you had to get used to it, or maybe you've had years of practice with how the calendar keeps going, and it's still ...


Blue Christmas: It's the most wonderful time of the year — but what if it's not for you?  USA TODAY

The "holiday blues" — feelings of loneliness, loss or isolation that arise during this time of year — is real. Psychologists share tips to fight it.


Do Animals Experience Grief? | Science  Smithsonian

A growing body of evidence points to how animals are aware of death and will sometimes mourn for or ritualize their dead.


After a suicide, here’s what happens to the people left behind  USA TODAY

Because of the stigma and array of emotions felt by loss survivors after a loved one's suicide, many do not seek help or support, harming themselves in the ...


Commentary: Help is here for children who are grieving a loss  Naples Daily News

November is National Children's Grief Awareness month, set aside to educate communities on how children grieve and how specialists can help them heal.


Sorry for Your Loss review: Don’t miss Facebook’s terrific new drama  Vox

The new series charts a young widow's grief and gives Elizabeth Olsen a part worthy of her talent.


After Tragedy, How Survivors Cope  The Wall Street Journal

Losing one family member is hard enough. How does anyone deal with multiple losses? After a duck boat accident killed nine members of one family, others ...


The legacy of grief: Coping with loss  Medical News Today

There are very few things as certain in life as the experience of loss. We have all had, or will have, to say goodbye to someone who we cherish deeply — be it a ...


How the internet is changing the way we grieve  The Conversation - UK

People don't die in the same way that they used to. In the past, a relative, friend, partner would pass away, and in time, all that would be left would be memories ...


Mourning death by suicide: How you can provide support for the bereaved  The Conversation - US

Survivors of those who have died by suicide have special needs that many people do not quite understand. An expert in grief offers ways to be a helpful, healing ...


Past loss and grief played role in her decision to go back to school  Harvard Gazette

Cathy Payne chose to get a degree at the Harvard Extension School to honor the memories of loved ones.


How To Address The Psychological Effects Of Grief In The Workplace  Forbes Now

Learn ways to support your employees when you see signs of their grief at the workplace.


Stages of grief: Die-hard Beto O'Rourke fans mourn emotional Senate race loss  Dallas News

By 9:15 p.m. the first few news stations called the race: Sen. Ted Cruz won re-election.Sam Cade exhaled deeply and rested her chin in her hand....


Dear Therapist: Will I Ever Get Over My Wife's Death?  The Atlantic

Editor's Note: Every Wednesday, Lori Gottlieb answers questions from readers about their problems, big and small. Have a question? Email her at ...


'Sorry For Your Loss' has a lot to say about grief  KPCC

(Starts at 8:57). You might think a series about a grieving widow would be tough to watch, but "Sorry For Your Loss" is anything but. The Facebook Watch show ...


Gift Cards Are the New Sympathy Cards  The New York Times

Credits for Seamless, Uber Eats and the like are a very 21st-century way to support a grieving friend.


Review: Elizabeth Olsen Is Revelatory in Facebook’s Sorry for Your Loss  Vanity Fair

First things first: yes, Sorry for Your Loss is a TV show that airs on Facebook. There's a significant chance that you don't know this, but last year, Facebook ...


Kristoff St. John's death calls attention to risks facing suicide loss survivors  USA TODAY

Young and the Restless star Kristoff St. John's death highlights the risks that face survivors of suicide loss. His son Julian St. John died in 2014.


Grief in the workplace: How to handle death, loss and trauma  ABC Local

What should you say to a colleague who's grieving? Not saying anything can be one of the worst things to do. Here are tips on how to help someone through ...


Can sport help to come to terms with grief and loss?  BBC Sport

As Jamie Vardy reveals the Leicester team all want to play against Cardiff, BBC Sport asks how other sportspeople have dealt with grief.


How to overcome grief's health-damaging effects - Harvard Health  Harvard Health

Grieving over the death of a spouse, friend, or family member exposes people to many months of constant stress that can lead to anxiety, depression, trouble…


Life in nursing homes and assisted living means waking to a neighbor’s death  Washington Post

Residents find someone they saw every day gone. Aides may arrive to find an empty bed.


Complicated Grief App Designed to Help Military Families Cope with Loss  Columbia University

Experts on grief at the Columbia School of Social Work are collaborating with the Defense Department's Uniformed Services University of Health Sciences on a ...


Record Review: Anne-Claire Meditates on Grief and Loss on I Still Look For You  The Independent Weekly

Though it's been a long wait between albums for Anne-Claire Niver, it seems I Still Look For You is as much of an emotional release for Niver as it is artistic.


The ‘Disenfranchised Grief’ of Losing Your Job  The Atlantic

Editor's Note: This article is part of Exit Interview, a series of conversations about leaving one's career. It's comforting to know people like Meg Spinella, a hospice ...


When grief came, my world crumbled. I don't want that to happen to you  The Guardian

It's vital that we publicly honour the lives of loved ones, says the rapper and film-maker Professor Green.


‘Grief dissolves you. I could no longer sleep upstairs in our bed’  The Irish Times

Éilís Ní Dhuibhne on the death of her husband Bo, the subject of her new memoir.


Understanding Grief And Mourning The Loss Of Your Work Life In Retirement  Forbes

Grief is a very real part of retirement planning, in more ways than you think.


How Grief Became Joe Biden's 'Superpower'  POLITICO

Two tragedies, 43 years apart, have defined the former vice president's life. Have they also made him a more formidable presidential candidate?


10 things to read when you’re grieving  PBS NewsHour

The NewsHour asked its staff for recommendations of books or poems that helped them survive a period of loss. In their own words, here are 10 possible reads ...


Writing to ease grief and loss - Harvard Health  Harvard Health

Some research suggests that disclosing deep emotions through writing can boost immune function as well as mood and well-being. Conversely, the stress of ...


Do men and women experience grief differently? A new book suggests they do.  The Washington Post

Five years ago, Jonathan Santlofer's wife, Joy, died unexpectedly following a routine outpatient procedure. In the days and months following her death, Santlofer ...


home | site map
© 2007